Urban Dictionary defines a "Hater" as "A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.
Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy.
The hater doesn't really want to be the person he or she hates, rather the hater wants to knock someone else down a notch."
Recently, a friend of mine entered an online competition. Voters has decided that hers was the better entry and as soon as she was announced the winner, ther closest competitors labelled the win as being 'fixed' and lodged a complaint with the organizers. Their smear campaign against my friend included vicious rumours and character assassination and it became very ugly, very quickly.
Needless to say she was devastated beyond words. No matter how hard we tried to cheer her up and shrug off the unnecessary negative comments, her heart was breaking. She was stripped of her glory although innocent and what was meant to be a joyous occasion was overshadowed by bitterness and resentment.
Haters gonna hate!
While it was easy for me to stand in support of my friend, it wasn't easy watching someone so gentle and kind be hauled across the proverbial coals by a complete stranger. Why on earth would she take what this person was saying as the truth? She didn't know the person and the person had no idea who she was either. She was a nameless, faceless competitor on an online, web based marketing nightmare campaign.
The truth is that life is full of these bullies and as we all know that haters are gonna hate! So what does one do in the face of adversity to overcome these hurdles of hatred and hurt?
Rise above confidently - it's all a mind game
What kind of person gets joy out of hurting others so maliciously? I'll tell you.
1. They are the kind of people who are emotionally incomplete and cannot stand to see anyone else happy if it doesn't involve them at the fore.
2. To get over your pain, have complete confidence in yourself. People can only hurt you if you give them permission to do so.
3. Allow yourself to be a winner. Your prize is sanity, peace and personal joy and the entry form is forgiveness.
4. None of this will matter. Not now, not in 5 years time. Choose joy and happy memories over bad ones. If you allow this person to defeat your mind, you're only going to remember the bad stuff and none of the good.
5. Realise that you have your own army! There are people who love you, friends that care and those you would go to the ends of the earth for you. Let the haters hate - you can't keep a good man down!
6. People who pull you down, don't have an attitude of gratitude, fact!
7. Don't let the negative talk become your own. Remember, someone else's opinion isn't your truth. Sometimes we take on the labels other people give us and adopt them as our own. Don't.
8. Laugh it off. Sometimes its best to just have a good old laugh. Don't take any of it too seriously, this too shall pass.
9. Be a victim, but then get over it. It's okay to be sad and even depressed for a little while. But, at some stage you need to pick yourself up, call said army and get out of your victim mode. It's time to move on, this isn't your 'stuff' so don't act like it belongs to you.
10. Haters wanna see you hurting, so keep your chin up even if your heart is sore. Hold your head up high, show some pride!
Feel better soon!
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