While resolutions seem to be overrated by most and labelled as "premeditated disappointments", one cannot help but take stock of the by gone year and relish in the hope that a new one symbolizes.
If you're anything like myself you have already spent a sufficient amount of time considering how 2013 can either go horribly arwy or lend itself to surprisingly better prospects. The latter of the two won in my mind and thats what I'm sticking to. If you are, however, still contemplating how to make 2013 your best ever, here is my advice.
No More Excuses
While speaking about my problems incessantly (my traditional way of dealing, coping and processing through verbal communication and very often resembles whining) I found that my mood is affected and manipulated by my tone of helplessness. Fact is, there are no excuses for not finding a solution to any problem you may perceive as the "reason" you can't get on with it. Choose to be a solution finder, say yes more often, become a joy detective. If you refuse to live a life of excuses you will soon realise the power of accountability.
Surround Yourself With Positivity
Like attracts like and nothing attracts more joy than being joyful. Fake it till you make it as they say and while some of us would rather complain about our jobs, weight, finances sometimes faking it tricks the mind and those around us into a joy state - attracting genuinely joyous experiences. Clean out your address book and make space for those who improve and contribute to your life positively. Make your year ahead count by choosing joy over drama.
The Drama Triangle
The three roles we play as ego driven human beings are those of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer. While each of those roles come at a discount (either discounting oneself or others) keeping our ego's in check helps in developing our EQ - this point is for our friends battling with point 1 - take note of the role you may play in your life, with certain friends, family etc - then choose autonomy from games.
Bucket List Versus Resolutions
As mentioned in my intro, a lot of people I have interviewed refuse to make resolutions in fear of not sticking to them. I am on the fence in this subject so I have made myself a 35 point bucket list ticking off the items as I achieve them. I keep this either on my fridge and in my bedroom cupboard door and every month or so I go check out what I need to do and have completed to date. It is highly motivating sans the pressure of declaring how you're going to lose 25 kgs by the end of January. Keep it real and enjoy the satisfaction of crossing off those items (sometimes collectively) as you indirectly achieve your goals.
Respect The Benjamin's and The Rest Will Be Taken Care Of
I managed to release all expectations of my holiday to The Universe at the beginning of December when I knew travel wasn't a financial option for us. I went with the flow and landed up taking two unexpected, fully sponsored trips spanning across the coast of Durban, two weeks apart from each other. I learned a valuable lesaon - plan to save, spend wisely and respect money - it is a vibration of your attitude towards it. In 2013 see how much money you can save, you'll thank me later!
Move with the flow of life
As part of a grounding practice, the best advice I've received is to surround myself with nature and animals when feelings low. Creativity is also part of this process, however, choosing to toss the technology that keeps us on the couch may just be the difference between a crabby and joyful state of mind. If you take stock of how much time we spend on social media, behind the computer or on the couch, one realises how much time is wasted on doing nothing about getting back in touch with self. So grab your dogs for a walk, take a dip in the pool or take a drive to an animal farm or local forest and reconnect.
Wishing you a very happy 2013 - expect the best.
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