Letter To My Future Husband

To my darling husband, 

To call you by this title, one that I have always imagined to be the most important one in my life, is such a blessing. 

I'm not sure if we've met yet or if I'm writing to the future you, but I'm grateful that I've found you regardless because I've never given up on finding you. I've always known you were someone special and I recall the first time we met and the chemistry between us. You are my glue today, you were my hope then. 

You won't believe how far I've come, yet you already know my stories, my memories and my far from perfect past. You've accepted my imperfections and I've worked hard to be the woman I am today, the wife I know I should be, can be, am.

I'm writing to say thank you for putting up with my 'strong' personality and sometimes erratic behaviour. I may not always be understood or appreciated by the world, but by you I am adored. My dad always said that a "strong horse needs a stronger rider" and you know exactly how to handle this horse. 

Looking back on our time together before you proposed, I thank you for the time you put into yourself. Those moments of introspection you invested in, to be the man you are today. Those hard to address issues you managed to work through, to be the man I so love and adore. Thank you for believing too in me as I've worked on my share of personal challenges, and for being patient and kind when I didn't deserve it. 

Our first kiss still lingers in my mind, how far we've come from that time of innocence and awkwardness. We love passionately, openly and completely. The world is a better place because of our union. Birds seems to sing in unison to our hearts melodic chorus, and people are drawn to our bond. It is tangible and poignant, yet we do not stifle each other, allowing each to blossom and grow freely and without restriction. We are two individuals who are not because of each other, but for the sake of each other. Both unapologetically and wholly without fear of our future. 

You have this cute laugh and bright eyes that make my day even brighter. It's the little things you do that make me realise how lucky I am. It's your involvement & your passion that I'm drawn to. Your integrity, honesty and gentleness are admirable traits that I aspire to live by. 

When we decided to make our union official, we embraced the opportunity and turned what would have been a repetitive cycle of dysfunction into a second chance at living our best lives - on our terms. 

I fell in love with you because of the person that you've allowed me to be when we are together. The best version of myself, the version that I'm meant to be. 
To the man who became my best friend but understands that romance is just as important. That love and intimacy are both reliant on the amount of effort we put in, that keeping the romance alive is part of the fun of our togetherness. The man that never stops trying to prove his love and his passion for me, that reminds me how beautiful I am. He craves me and lets me know that I'm the only one for him. I am your everything and I have no doubt in my mind that your fidelity, love and respect for me is as important to you as it is to me. 

Thank you for asking my dad for my hand in marriage. No matter how 'new age' I appear to be, this tradition is by far the closest to my heart. I appreciate that you get on with my family as well as my friends, and that they in turn love you as much as you love them.  (Clearly they would all be with us today as I read this out to you either at our wedding day or just before)
Their love, like ours, keeps us strong and happy because friends and family are the glue that make this life worth living. 

I want to thank you for the ring you picked out and the thoughtfulness that went into making my life with you a reality. I know that we may still have our up's and down's but you never fail to remind me that we're in this together for the long haul. That, my sweet husband, is all I need to hear. It makes me proud and excited about our future and even more so about being your wife. 

Thank you for understanding that I'm a little eccentric, a little crazy and somewhat off the wall - yet you adore those things in me & accept me for who I am. It means so much that even when you don't agree with me, that you still respect my opinion. You're untainted by my passionate retorts and respect the fire within my heart. 

Our children look up to you and adore their father. You command their respect but you're gentle enough to speak to them on their level. They need you, as do I, with you all in my life I am whole. We all work hard together, we all play hard together and we love unashamedly. Imagine what the world would be like if we all loved this hard, this often. 

And while I realise it's not all roses and sunshine, I know in my heart that with you by my side, our lives ahead of us and growing as individuals as well as a couple - we are living our soul journey. 

Years down the line we're the proud grandparents of beautiful grandchildren and we look back on our lives together grateful and happy to have what we do. We've worked hard, we've grown but we're still together and I thank you yet again, for being the man I've always believed you would be. 

To my future husband, best friend, lover and life long companion. May all our days together be seen as positive, happy and exciting moments that are yet to be shared. 

I love you - already.