EQ or IQ?

Since I was a child I can recall being incredibly sensitive to my surroundings. Like something out of the Shining, I can recall standing at the base of our Jacaranda tree and staring at the doves, flowers and what looked like a purple-headed lizard and contemplated the meaning of life. At the time, I was 8 years old. I used to host funerals at the age of 4 for the dead moths and bee's on our windowsill, asking all to respect the sanctimony of the event.

As life has progressed I've developed (as you may have read previously) a bit of a John Edward/Thereza Caputo type gift for picking up names, colours and details of those who have passed on. This has lead me to massage therapy and now my Metaphysic studies through Metavarsity. 

Thing is, the older I get, the harder it is to keep this emotional connection I have with people at bay as I can sometimes take this too personally or upon myself to fix. I always try remind myself that not everyones bad mood is a reflection on me and sometimes its simply someone having a bad day. This leads me to my next point.

Oversensitive or Under Appreciated

We often land up fantasizing about how much better life would be if we were elsewhere until we get 'there' and it isn't. I'm having one of those days today and I'm asking myself "Whose issue is this anyway?". 

I started doing some research on the net trying to find the answer to my state of mind. I cannot understand how people can be so rude, callous or simply bad mannered and often find myself battling as others don't live up to the service delivery and good matters I bestow on others.

I'm not talking about the little moments when you can see one is taking strain, I'm talking about those moments when people are just downright Neanderthal. Asking myself if I was being oversensitive or if I had a right to expect a courteous report from the other side. 

I found a website that covered this topic - and they say its all got to do with your IQ. The higher your IQ, the more sensitive you are. Well thats what they claim anyway. So I thought I would try it out. 

As Bright As A Button - a plastic button

After 2 IQ tests during my lunch break I'm disappointed to know that I have above average IQ - one test gave me 100 and the other 112. I'm pretty sure that if my EQ were tested that I would rate somewhere off the charts if empathy were measured in a points system. 

I've always believed I was able to see the world without bias or prejudice - until now when I feel as if maybe I'm just being a big baby and need to 'toughen' up. But what if they're onto something. What if there is an element of truth in that the more sensitive one is, the better it is for the rest of us...

Here are 10 points that prove that the world needs more sensitive people:

1. Judgement in the workplace - I thought we were a team? Aren't team members supposed to get along, be friendly and greet each other? OK I'm not asking everyone to have a top class day but surely respecting each other and being courteous is common practice? Maybe we're all meant to me sardined together to sift the movers from the shakers.
2. There is hurt all around us - Turn on your TV, your radio at news time or speak to someone who has just received more bad news for the 2nd time this week. Who are the people that pick them up? We are!
3. Our world needs help - Forget the humans, what about the animals? Noticed how many horse/dog/cat/fish/sea lion whisperers there are on DSTV? Thats because not everyone is in tune and by in tune I mean sensitive enough to speak for our furry friends.
4. Nature strikes back - Tsunami's, tornadoes and devastating earthquakes, our planet is being abused and misused for the benefit of man-kind. The world needs more healers.
5. Road Rage aint pretty - Most taxi's in South Africa will drive you to an aneurysm in peak hour traffic. The lack of consideration that most drivers have (especially in Joburg) remind me of the people I have to work with some days. Perhaps learning to channel calm in the eye of the tornado is healthier than we realise.
6. Stress leads to Dis-ease - If being highly sensitive means being able to attune to those around us, perhaps some of us should start realising that our purpose in life is to serve others through various means. Stress leads to high blood pressure, cardiovascular issues and blockages within our bodies. Being sensitive shouldn't mean being hurt or taken advantage of or that one is weak or frail. If we can learn to stress less by being sensitive to ourselves, we'll start a chain reaction of self preservation.
7. End of the World Awakening - More like minded souls are gathering together to realise that their 16 hour jobs are not serving them. Just this afternoon a friend sat with me sobbing, telling me about her hearts desire. Maybe we aren't listening to the change that is around us, but more and more people are awakening from within! Are you listening to your hearts desire?
8. Creativity - According to my research, most highly sensitive people are deemed as 'creatives'. This is apparently because creative people are most in touch with their feelings and thoughts. These people are usually teachers and healers. We are able to read peoples emotions and non verbal communication.  
9. Everyone's a cynic - If you've been dubbed 'over sensitive' or a 'cry baby' because of your levels of empathy, you are not alone. In my generation as well as those we take cue's from and turn to for guidance, 'sucking it up' is the best way for people to deal with their emotions. This is especially true for the men of our species as well as various 'hard arse' cultures that shun sensitivity in men or people in general. Where is the place in the world that 'softies' can unite and just 'be'. 
10. Soul Evolution - Surely if being sensitive means naturally being of service to others, and being of service aids us in being better people, and that step has assisted someone else in doing the same, then we are therefore evolving through introspection? 

With enough sensitive people in the world each doing their own personal inventory on their spiritual intelligence, each of us are able to change the world by just being ourselves. At the end of the day, regardless of our surroundings, we are born to be the light in this dark world. 

I think I just answered my own question. You are the experience that the world needs, you are the experience you're trying to learn from. Your situation is the experience that you will grow from and right now you're exactly where you are meant to be. 

So if you're one of 'the sensitive' people I've been describing, please share this post or comment on it. I would love to know that I'm not alone, that somewhere out there someone is reading this and realises that the world needs them too!