Our Dysfunctional Hamster Wheel

Not to be funny or anything but we've becoming socially dysfunctional. We live in a society where there are no secrets anymore. The truth is that people are either too afraid to admit to their very real flaw because its too hard, or they broadcast their lives and criticisms of the world on social media, telephonically or otherwise to let the world know their mental status updates.

So where has accountability gone? Has it been shelved with good old fashioned letter writing and chivalry? Truth is that feelings and thoughts aren't sacred anymore. If you don't like someone you delete them off your What's App, block them from Facebook or stop following them on Twitter. The way we fight (which is essentially communication) has dwindled to a touch and go perspective on life and we we live it.

Ive decided to let the drama go. I'm the first to admit that if our friendship isn't serving a greater good in my life your name will no longer appear on my Facebook friend list. Instead of giving in to the incessant gossip and emotional vampire slaves out there that I call friends, I've decided to mind my own business. There are far too many good and decent people stuck in the rut of complaining for the sake of having something to say. What if instead of creating drama to sound interesting you chose to listen to your partner instead of having the last word. Perhaps being a better friend instead of sulking because your inner diva believes she's always right? What if instead of waiting to be rescued we chose to fight for the right to be the best we could be, for no one else but ourselves, our future selves? Perhaps instead of losing our cool we actually processed our emotions before we spoke?

Who's knows what the world is coming to? If you're not contributing to my life, you're contaminating it. I don't know about you but I'm hoping that each day I make the right choice to forge ahead, not make the same mistakes and surround myself with people that know how to love and support themselves. In doing so I know that they can be the best love and support to me in the future. How can I expect my emotionally devoid connections to be the best friends they can be when they can't make the right decisions for themselves. Surely their lives are a reflection of their choices? Heck, this girl aint perfect but when you're constantly mopping up other peoples mess, surely its time to ask yourself these questions?

In the meantime the only thing I can do is choose life over being surrounded by drama and as for those friends, well I guess I'll just be sending them love - lots of it. We all need to take better stock of not only what comes out our mouths, but what message our lives reflect.